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Who Are You Becoming?
“Who are you becoming? – Raj Gavurla
In my speaking, coaching, and teaching my clients and audiences want to transform their performance to make progress. Many have had successes and some have adversity or had adversity before they became who they currently are. They need help with performance goals and situations unique to them.
Most people started in a profession and progressed within or into another profession and endeavor. To help you make progress in who you are becoming there are four areas needing development and progress:
1. Learning is the catalyst for positive change. Change is occurring and the ability to learn and its application is essential to make progress. What are you learning? What are you applying your uniqueness to?
2. Building trustworthy relationships means we have a marketplace with services and products. How are you deciding the best services and products for you and who do you need to build trustworthy relationships with to evolve?
3. Which services, products, and events will you buy and participate in? You need to spend your time and money wisely in the best places for you.
4. Create an experience for the marketplace to experience, buy, and participate in your services, products, and events.
Consistently do these four action items to transform your performance to make progress. Enjoy the process and select the best opportunities for you.
Four Mental Constructs To Be The Best
“Live Your Great Dreams, Focused Best Vision, Mission, and Goals – They Become Greater.” – RAJ GAVURLA
Daily you position services and products as the best so a client and/or prospect buys to develop and grow their business. Throughout the day we interact with family, colleagues, clients, prospects, community, and friends. There are rankings for the best in a specific industry, sports team, car, humanitarian of the year, person of the year, and so on. Regardless of ranking, one needs to continue progressing to determine who or what is the best. That’s why you research, create services and products, market, sell, or play the football, basketball, soccer, and tennis season to determine who is the best.
Four Constructs To Be The Best:
1. Mental
Learning is the catalyst for positive change. It creates new mental constructs for you to apply. Apply the learning. Learning comes in many forms: books, family, watching a professional speaker, class, interview, tv, movie, friends, and other peoples’ experiences. Develop and grow your mental strength and learn how to learn.
2. Emotional
Because we interact and have relationships with others we need the best emotion so we can be of the most value. Peaking at the right time and not too early or too late is a skill needing honing. Clean out the emotional baggage. Your relationships will be good.
3. Physical
By eating right (nutrition) and exercising you optimize your mental abilities and gain benefits you didn’t think of. Your body language and demeanor become congruent. Consistently flow and feel the endorphins throughout the day. Make stretching a part of your exercise. Consistently learn how to eat right, consistently learn how to exercise, and consistently learn how to stretch so you see consistent results without getting injured.
4. Spiritual
We have freedom. You can believe in what you believe in. I’m spiritual, I believe in all faiths. I think there will be others. That’s for me. I pray to one god (universal god) in the evening and silently pray throughout the day when something good happens or when I need to reduce stress. What’s your faith? Who do you pray to?
Transform your performance. Work on your mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual constructs to be the best.
Leadership: Winning Compassionately/Fight/Flight Response
“Implement the winning compassionately/fight/flight response.” – Raj Gavurla
The winning compassionately/fight/flight response is an upgrade to the psychology fight/flight response. During our day at work we want better results by consistent performance improvement. When working with teams and during this election year I observe the need for people to work as a team. On a great team each person has a voice for the betterment of the team and to better themself.
However, I’ve seen some team members implement their fight response when they have someone expressing a viewpoint unique from theirs. They communicate their position as does the other person. However, with a not so good team one or both implement their flight response if they don’t hear what they want to hear. They create a sub team because they think the other person is wasting their time and they don’t include their teammate who has a unique viewpoint.
Why? Because they implement their flight response. To them, it’s easier to flee (flight) then have a mature conversation without someone exploding or getting ticked off. Instead of doing so, add a new mental construct called the winning compassionately response.
The winning compassionately response keeps each team member involved and engaged. If done good, it creates better results and teammates learn by seeking to know their teammates to better understand themself. Then, in current and future situations your team and you perform better. It’s a better habit for you and your team to implement. The rewards are enormous. Most notably, you have a more enjoyable and fun workplace (environment), less stress, and your team and you achieve more.
During the presidential political campaign in the The United States of America you hear candidates talk about we need to fight this or that. Implementing their fight/flight response. Instead, how about using the new mental construct, winning compassionately response, for vanguard leadership making America and the world experience winning compassionately by showing the rise of humanity (good prevails over evil).
Continuous maturing, development, and growth brings more peace and prosperity for everyone. There would be a whole lot more progress, achievements, and successes worth talking about than what exists now.
Work As A Team
ENABLE OTHERS GREAT DREAMS, GOALS, AND MISSION” – RAJ GAVURLA
The past couple of months I was a part of two new teams. On the first one we weren’t guided by instruction, however, having been a part of several teams we had to come to agreement on how we would work, what we value as a team, what are goals, and how do we achieve them.
On the second team we were given guidance/instruction on creating a team charter. Both teams are high performing and it’s amazing how much there is to learn from teammates and build relationships. For example, discussing how to approach a project versus just diving in really makes a huge difference in quality, efficiency, and fun.
As you can imagine, each team is protective of each other. One more so than the other. For a team to gain more and each individual to gain more identity must evolve. By evolving identity each person and the team accomplishes so much more and there is a sense of togetherness and value that is indescribable. Each person believes they are a part of something special no one can take away!
Usually during our discussions and conversations as we wrap up to achieve our next goal(s) and mission we wrap up with one question. “What are the next steps?” After discussions and conversations on your team(s) in accomplishing an assignment, goal, finding resolution, or coming to agreement, is someone asking a well timed “what are the next steps?“.
Value of Learning
Take a few minutes to reflect on your achievements or a problem and think of one skill that helped you. I’ve been on the platform sharing my expertise and research with diverse groups (business groups, corporate, non-profit, government, schools, athletic, and community) and each time one question I ask as part of my preparation is: What does this group want to learn?
For example, you were in third grade and you wanted to learn so you could go to the fourth grade, then middle school, high school, and college. You had to learn new skills to achieve more. This applies to your job and to sports. The learning you have now only allows you to be at your current level of achievement, however, by learning new skills you can achieve the next level and beyond. Marshall Goldsmith succinctly puts it as the title of his book, What Got You Here, Won’t Get You There. That’s the value of learning.
One technique to really advance your learning is watching a video of yourself performing what you want to achieve. How about watching a video of your team or business performing what you want to achieve? Would this motivate and inspire performance?
In my presentation skills coaching, working with athletes, interview coaching, working with a business, and working with a team, I video clients so they can gain the full learning experience along with my coaching feedback for them to study. Of course, there are several other techniques we can use to develop a skill until we master it.
So take a look at your skills. How many have you mastered? How many need skill development? Take credit for the ones you mastered and find skill development techniques to help you master the others.
Your goals make your dreams a reality. What do you need to learn to achieve your great dreams and goals?
3 Zone Performance and Entrepreneurial Articles Week of April 6 2015
Each week I read a number of zone performance and entrepreneurial articles from various online resources. Here are my top three picks this week. I have added my comment about each article and would like to hear what you think too.
How To Turn Small Talk Into Smart Conversation
By: Chris Colin and Rob Baedeker
Imagine almost any situation where two or more people are gathered—a wedding reception, a job interview, two off-duty cops hanging out in a Jacuzzi. Read More
My Comment: Worth reading
Big Men Make Duke-Wisconsin NCAA Title Matchup Even Bigger
By: Dan Wolken
There is plenty of merit to college basketball’s reputation as a game dominated by guards, particularly in an era where most big men with even a whiff of NBA talent turn professional before their full potential is realized. Read More
My Comment: Championship game
Differing Work Styles Can Help Team Performance
By: Carson Tate
Most leaders now recognize that the best teams leverage diversity to achieve long-term success. But many think about it in pretty narrow terms: gender, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation, and/or age. Sometimes they also consider organizational attributes, like function or rank. Read More
My Comment: Useful Article
Self-Think vs. Self-Talk
Self-Think vs. Self-Talk
“Motivate and inspire your team’s passion to take action to produce better results.” – Raj Gavurla
Did you know there’s a difference between self-think and self-talk? Self-think is simply what you think as you do something. Self-talk is what you say verbally to yourself.
You’ve been in situations with a client, teammate, or when on your own something is said. It’s essential to know is it being said to motivate themself, are saying it to inform you, want a reply from you, or unfortunately trying to trick you. After quickly determining this by using self-think, you know how to react. Be conscious of this and you’ll see your ability to make progress increase. I encourage you to get in the zone, don’t let someone get you out of the zone, and get who you’re talking with “in the zone.”
You’ll make much greater strides. It’s a simplified approach which produces better results, moods, and wins.
Think of three examples during interaction where you could have benefited from this information. How could have the discussion and interaction yielded better results?
Remember the difference between self-think and self-talk.
Are you planning a meeting for this year or a kickoff meeting for early next year? Book Raj to speak to energize and inspire your team, organizaton or corporation to consistently perform at the top of our game! Call him at 864.569.2315 or contact him at raj@rajgavurla.com with your date, time and location to book your date today!
Communication: the Difference Between Winning and Losing
The ability to communicate with a focus plays a vital role. Regardless of our occupation, the individuals who excel in a specific field and are able to communicate this knowledge to benefit others and themselves always win. Be attentive to your presence, voice, body language, eye contact, and actions. Communication has many forms and, when you use it properly, you win.
Democracy and capitalism form a communication system allowing us to work with one another. In the United States, political campaigns are abundant. A political campaign is won on the ability of a leader to communicate to the people his or her path forward for a better future. Newly-elected President Franklin D. Roosevelt said in his inaugural speech in 1933, “Let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself: nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance.”
Every day you wake up with a positive winning attitude or a negative losing attitude. The choice and decision is yours. A positive winning attitude communicates that life is fun and you’re a success. A negative losing attitude communicates the opposite. Therefore, wake up with a positive winning attitude. There is no charge and it has many mental and health benefits.
Your ability to communicate also determines whether you have a winning sales call. But it takes practice. The next time you communicate with an individual, focus. It will differentiate you and should give you a competitive advantage. Your lunch meetings will be more meaningful and, when you talk with your significant other instead of heading straight for the TV, your personal life will be more meaningful. Selling will become a winning proposition.
If I receive good communication from the players, coaches, and fans during a sporting event, I know we will win. The players communicate to me by making plays. If my team intercepts the ball, I cheer! If my team allows a touchdown, I’m not cheering!
I wish I knew every language in the world. Can you imagine the ability to connect with people? However, even when two people don’t know the same language, communication still takes place. In Washington, DC, I was driving and saw a man and woman making what appeared to me to be abusive gestures. His face looked thwarted and so did hers. I parked my car and began walking toward them. In my mind, I was going to calm the situation. As I approached, I realized they were using sign language. Then I noticed that, engraved above the door on the building to my left, was “Gallaudet University.” I told a friend about my experience and he informed me that Gallaudet University is a school for deaf, hard-of-hearing, and hearing students. Then the episode made more sense to me. Assumption is a losing form of communication.
To address traditional communication, think of the following: What you say, how you say it, your listening skills, your understanding, and your response make positive momentum. Once, when I was flying from Atlanta to Pittsburgh, the lady sitting beside me was intently reading a book . We were thirty minutes outside of Pittsburgh when the plane started losing altitude. It felt like we were on a roller coaster. The plane was definitely communicating that there was a problem to the pilot and passengers. When there’s a problem, you better fix it, especially on an airplane. The lady beside me started reading fast, prayed, started to look nervous, and grabbed my arm tightly. Being positive-minded, I knew something had to be done, so I used humor to calm her and myself. I told her with an “I know what’s happening” tone, “Don’t worry; they are just backing off the jets.” That positive and knowledgeable-sounding input calmed her and the airplane soon became stable. I did the best I could do and I’m glad I didn’t have to do better. Prayer and humor, when used correctly, are winning forms of communication.
A significant form of communication is motivation. Motivation gets you to think and to do. It provides fuel for professional and personal fulfillment. My motivational tip for you is to communicate with a focus, and you will have more fun, create more value, develop better relationships, and show you care. Be genuine, comfortable, and patient. Remember: Communication is the difference between winning and losing. It will make a significant difference in your life.
Be a winner!
Are you planning a meeting for this year or a kickoff meeting for early next year? Book Raj to speak to energize and inspire your team, organizaton or corporation to consistently perform at the top of our game! Call him at 864.569.2315 or contact him at raj@rajgavurla.com with your date, time and location to book your date today!