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Living Your Greatest Dreams and Goal Setting Examples

“We don’t need age discrimination: We have babies, kids, teenagers, and adults not young and old people. Be proud of your age. It means you’re living, nurturing, developing, building, growing, evolving, and making breakthroughs in each. Living forever is inevitable.  Apply the learning.”         – Raj Gavurla

“Success is something you attract by the person you become.” – Jim Rohn

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Describe An Experience, Situation, Or Sports Using Better Words & Better Language Instead of Violent Words & Language

“Win fun enjoy living a robust life making lives better to set personal best records experiencing intelligent breakthroughs in human performance, life, organizational development & breakthroughs.  That means some win more, each wins, and no one loses unless there is violence.” – Raj Gavurla

Seeing the violence occurring locally, nationally, and throughout the world, what can be done to bring civility? Why are people verbally attacking each other maliciously, denigrating, and degrading them self or another person? 

This doesn’t honor the human dignity people need to help and work together to forward, elevate, and thrive humanity individually and collectively to raise the standard of living making people a better life, better living, and better future.

The English language is a lexicon of robust words of vibrancy and comity. How come more people don’t use them instead of violent words to describe non-violent experiences, situations, and sporting events? From the early days one can think we’ve come a long way from having to literally fight to survive and eat daily. Therefore, using violent words instead of killing was the next level of success. Hence, the fight/flight response. Important to know there are more responses bringing an abundance of sharing and connection. How about the sharing with each other without putting each other on the defensive response, the only win fun better common outcomes response, or the make lives better response, prevent deaths response, and save lives response?

With this sharing, connection, and building relationships with good communication more is learned and apply the learning. What are examples:

  1. Someone says “we, they, you or I killed them” or “I killed him or her.” when referring to an experience, situation, or sporting event. Really, who was killed? Thankfully, no one.
  2. In business or on a team people dismissing an idea or someone’s input saying, “you don’t know anything” or taking something a colleague said out of context and having a “grudge” against them instead of talking with them to help seeing this as an opportunity to correct a colleague to promote your values, good communication, and good relationship building to make your organization stronger. Your colleague will be thankful for you making the effort to embrace them versus disliking them and other colleagues will sense a good workplace culture and environment.
  3. When watching basketball, I hear announcers say and “a dagger” or “go for the jugular” to describe a three pointer or dunk. I’m glad there wasn’t “a dagger” and everyone’s “jugular” is in place. I would much rather hear it was an amazing high arching shot soft through the net or they are finishing or closing the game.
  4. Then, there is the “punch them in the mouth” or “we’ll kick your _ _ _.” Gratefully, there was no fist fight and no one was kicked. I would much rather hear win fun better outcomes the right way or what’s important is what we do and how we perform or play not what they do.

This usage of violent and malicious words and language is projecting itself into politics. Whether it’s during a presidential campaign or when politicians rally their base to “fight”. Some people take this literally being frustrated, have no emotional control, and cause societal violence. Why not instead rally them to “win fun better common outcomes” or “work together”?

These are just a few of the examples coming to my mind. My learning point is each example can be spruced with better words and better language making the description of the experience or situation more meaningful and pleasurable. It also becomes an educational teaching moment on people skills, realizing the essence of life, citizenship, and sportsmanship.

Unfortunately, these examples carry over into our kids lives as they watch t.v. and have social and educational experiences, situations, and play sports at school. The need for the use of better words and better language is a way to eschew conflict and violence in our kids school and during sporting events. The Bestie Boys lyrics “you missed two classes and no homework” “you gotta fight for your right to party”. Why not “you gotta only win fun better outcomes for your right to party?” Why are there fights at kids games by kids or adults? That’s non-sense! We don’t do that here.

By using better words and better language when describing an experience or situation you create good communication and good communication builds good relationships.

The following is my value graphic I use when helping and working together with an individual, group, or team to develop and make breakthroughs.

I’m always learning and apply the learning. Apply the use of better words and better language to see how civility and dignity by each person builds good communication, good relationships, and brings more civility locally, nationally, world wide, and globally.

Reflect on your experiences, situations, and sporting events. Could you have used better words, better language to create good communication and build good relationships to help and work together towards only win fun common better outcomes? Some win more, each wins, and no one loses unless there is violence.

What refulgent effect would this have in your family, with friends, in your workplace culture and in your environment? Would there be less stress, less anxiety, less yelling, less unhappiness, less loneliness, more civility, better outcomes, compassion, respect, helping and working together instead of denigrating and degrading your own or another person’s brain and mindset?

Apply the learning. This slight adjustment in our frame of mind I know and believe ignites peace over violence one on one, one by one.

“Praise people being careful, intelligent, and mature.” – Raj Gavurla

If interested, for your specific situation contact me at 864.569.2315, raj@rajgavurla.com to help you and your team.

Teach The Best Attitude

“Teach the best attitude.” – Raj Gavurla


Live Well Consistently Performing Experiencing Intelligent Breakthroughs In Your Performance & Life:

You have an intrinsic relationships between your motivation and inspiration.

This week learn to Teach The Best Attitude. What controls it? Why is it almost any need or problem people jump to attitude as an explanation of success or non-success.

This helps you. Answer the questions: 
1.  What is your focused best vision?
2.  What breakthroughs are you working on?
3.  Do you teach the best attitude?


“The Zone” Effect:

By many “the zone” effect is described as everything is in slow motion, time stands still (isn’t a deterring factor), and your life and performance feels effortless.

My “The Zone” Effect: 

I was driving in Greenville, SC and looked at the sky.

  1. The clouds formed the image of the continents and nations.

2. Weeks later, I looked at the sky and the sun’s beams of light radiated through the clouds depicting an amazing waterfall.

Since your “the zone” effects are important to me, my Facebook Live videos on Tuesday’s and Thursday’s will include a “The Zone” Effect  of mine.  You have “The Zone” Effects.  Do you have awareness of them?  We’ll have fun with “The Zone” Effect continuum.

Your Most Recent “The Zone” Effect

What consistently forward intelligent breakthroughs are you experiencing?  Please send me a personal message and I will reply.

Being someone else is a waste of your time” – Anonymous

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Experiencing Intelligent Breakthroughs In Your Sports Performance & Life #6

“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of who you are.”
– Anonymous

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What Do You Do With Your Time?

“Always apply your real-time wisdom (application of real-time learning) and knowledge.” – Raj Gavurla 

Consistently Perform: Experiencing Intelligent Breakthroughs In Your Performance & Life

For those using my Your Raise The Bar Primer: Mental Performance Tools workbook, are you making sure you are rating your day (auspicious, robust, excellent, very good, good, not so good).

My buddy Jordan (2nd grader) I’m mentoring drew this drawing of me. It shows me wearing Jordans (shoes). As in the Nike Jordan brand.


This upgraded my day from “very good” to “robust” as my day rating

Mother’s Day in my workbook is rated “auspicious”.

I’ll check your workbook when I do our evaluation.


Innovation and Entrepreneurial Leadership

Consistent Innovation and Entrepreneurial Leadership Success =

Do What You Love + Financial (Capital) Flow & Distribution + Creative Innovative Idea + Clarity of Vision + Leadership + Communication + Team + Execution

“The Zone” Effect

By many “the zone” effect is described as everything is in slow motion, time stands still (isn’t a deterring factor), and your performance feels effortless.

Here are three phrases I use to get into “the zone” experiencing “the zone” effect:

  1. Business:  “Work in the moment”
  2. Sports: “Play in the moment”
  3. Life: “Live in the moment”

My Life: “The Zone” Effect created by my buddy Jordan (2nd grader) I’m mentoring.

Your Most Recent “The Zone” Effect

Here’s an exercise for you:

What do you do with your time?

I. Think the right way in between what you are accomplishing (doing)

Ex: Business: the time in between doing your work

Sports: the time in between actual play

Life: the time in between your work and play


II. Think the right way while you are accomplishing (doing)

Ex: Business: the time while doing your work

Sports: the time during play

Life: the time during your life

III. Evaluate Accomplishments

IV. Next Step

“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it.”

– Eckhart Tolle 


For programs and services, contact Raj Gavurla at 864.569.2315, raj@rajgavurla.com.

Experiencing Intelligent Breakthroughs In Your Sports Performance & Life #3


“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of who you are.”
– Anonymous


For programs and services, contact Raj Gavurla at 864.569.2315, raj@rajgavurla.com.

Why Listen To A Speaker?

“Serve, give, do, help your parents and family, organization, teammates, clients,

friends, and others.”– Raj Gavurla

Last week I attended an event where people spoke about their solution for a better living and better future.  Afterwards, we took a break and as I networked with people I asked a few people what were the main points of a specific speaker.  None of them could tell me.  Therefore, it prompted me to write my post on why, how, and what to do when listening to a speaker.


When listening to a speaker, know why you are listening and discover why the speaker is saying what they say.


Listen to how the speaker acknowledges, honors, what are the main points, examples, and stories.

What To Do?

What does the speaker do to connect with the audience.  When a speaker connects that means the audience uses emotional intelligence to take this experiential learning and apply it to benefit their situation and benefit extension by telling someone about the speaker and event. Throughout your life you will be able to recall specifics about the speaker and message (it moved you, an example, phrases, sound bites, stories, or statistics) you’ll use at the right time (often and sometimes for decades) to help you succeed in what you are doing.

I recall speakers and their message, examples, phrases, sound bites, stories, or statistics throughout my life.  It has a cumulative effect and I recall it when needed at the perfect time.  The is the real value of listening to a speaker.

When you have this frame of mind each time you hear someone speak you receive an experiential learning credit.

If their is an internal or external conflict you are experiencing when listening to a speaker, here is my advanced performance and life conflict resolution and idea generation tool.  Speaking is the highest form of experiential learning from a person.

I look forward to hearing about the greater value you are receiving from attending events with a speaker.

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old but

on building the new.” – Dan Millman

For programs and services, contact Raj Gavurla at 864.569.2315, raj@rajgavurla.com.

“Endless” Speech In Written Form for You Addressing A Joint Session of Congress

My partnership with “Endless”

“Endless” edited his speech to be inclusive and added oratorical wisdom (i.e. “echoes of freedom”). Please read as he is preparing to address a Joint Session of Congress.



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Do You Instill Confidence Cues?

“Achieve your clear performance goal using confidence cues. ” – Raj Gavurla


Performance Breakthrough(s):

One skill to instill to create performance breakthrough(s) is confidence cues.  An example is driving to Greenville, SC from Washington, D.C..  Do you have a clear performance goal?  Yes, drive to Greenville, SC. Your confidence cues are put a full tank of gas in the car and refuel when needed, drive to Richmond, Durham, Greensboro, and Charlotte.  Each confidence cue gets you closer to your clear performance goal of driving to Greenville, SC.

Some people have a performance goal but it is not a clear performance goal.  They say in my coaching they want or need a client.  This is not a clear performance goal.  Why do you want a targeted client and how will you approach them?  Answering this question creates a clear performance goal.

Now that you have a clear performance goal, what are your confidence cues.  You know to prepare and do so, you  connect in a genuine way, and you have wisdom to approach them the right way. All of these are confidence cues.  Another confidence cue to instill is to ask better question(s) to create the right dialogue to help them get what they want, need, or are interested in.

Innovation and Entrepreneurial Leadership:

Are you creating performance breakthroughs?  Are your employees involved with innovation and entrepreneurial leadership?  The new trend in business is towards an innovation and entrepreneurial leadership culture instead of a hierarchical or authoritative culture.  Do you have a process to help your business  become more innovative and exhibit entrepreneurial leadership?  Doing so is a win for all.

“The Zone” Effect:

By many “the zone” effect is described as everything is in slow motion, time stands still (isn’t a deterring factor), and your performance feels effortless.

A sports example is when playing basketball before I shoot I’m already thinking ahead (therefore, I know I will shoot although I’m dribbling), then I see the rim one foot higher (for arch and backspin), and feel.  The last two are co-activation.  Some players see shooting the ball over the loop of the goal and some watch the path of the ball and some don’t.  What works for you?

Do you need to instill confidence cues to make you a better shooter.  There is always a spot on the floor for a shooter.

Your Most Recent “The Zone” Effect:

Here’s an exercise for you?  Describe a time when you were in “The Zone”.  Also, have your teammates describe a time when they were in “The Zone”.  What did you learn from this exercise?

As you progress, you learn skill(s) to achieve your clear performance goals.   The skill progresses in stages:

Learn the skill ->Develop the skill ->Build the skill ->Grow the skill ->”The Zone” Effect (use skill at the right time)

That’s “The Zone” Effect. Are you experiencing your “The Zone” Effect?

An amateur practices until they can play it correctly, a professional practices

until they can’t play it incorrectly.” – Unknown

I’ve been using my innovation and entrepreneurial leadership tools in my speaking programs, private performance and life consulting, and coaching.  This tool among other concepts and tools appear in my Entrepreneurial Thinking Tools manual, Your Raise The Bar: Mental Performance Tools workbooks for business/education, sports, and Winning At Entrepreneurship.  There are more resources to help you at http://www.MotivateResults.com.

For programs and services, contact Raj Gavurla at 864.569.2315, raj@rajgavurla.com.

Phrases That Pay To Create Performance Breakthroughs

“Use your skills at the right time.” – Raj Gavurla

build relationships

When I talk with people and coordinate with people, there are times when performance breakthroughs aren’t occurring.   Some phrases that might work for you are:

1.  Situation: They won’t do that.

     Ask:  “Who is they?”

2.  Situation: If we isn’t clear.

     Ask: “Who is we?”

3.  Situation: If us isn’t clear.

     Ask: “Who is us?”

4.  Situation:  If someone randomly says a word.

     Ask:  “What does that mean?”

5.  Situation: If you isn’t clear.

     Ask: “Who is you?”

6.  Situation: If them isn’t clear.

     Ask: “Who is them?”

7.  Situation: If I need that or send me the file isn’t clear it’s now.

     Ask:  When do you want it?

Remember the organization, team, and you are one.  If each isn’t exhibiting the right transparency for the betterment of people (clients, owners, shareholders, executives, leadership, management, professionals, and the market), then you have ostensible power and control.  With the right transparency, you create better performance breakthroughs.

Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world. – Albert Einstein

For programs and services, contact Raj Gavurla at 864.569.2315, raj@rajgavurla.com.