“Have serious fun serving someone.” – Raj Gavurla
“Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you.” – Princess Diana
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“Serve, give, do, help your parents and family, organization, teammates, clients,
friends, and others.”– Raj Gavurla
Last week I attended an event where people spoke about their solution for a better living and better future. Afterwards, we took a break and as I networked with people I asked a few people what were the main points of a specific speaker. None of them could tell me. Therefore, it prompted me to write my post on why, how, and what to do when listening to a speaker.
Why?
When listening to a speaker, know why you are listening and discover why the speaker is saying what they say.
How?
Listen to how the speaker acknowledges, honors, what are the main points, examples, and stories.
What To Do?
What does the speaker do to connect with the audience. When a speaker connects that means the audience uses emotional intelligence to take this experiential learning and apply it to benefit their situation and benefit extension by telling someone about the speaker and event. Throughout your life you will be able to recall specifics about the speaker and message (it moved you, an example, phrases, sound bites, stories, or statistics) you’ll use at the right time (often and sometimes for decades) to help you succeed in what you are doing.
I recall speakers and their message, examples, phrases, sound bites, stories, or statistics throughout my life. It has a cumulative effect and I recall it when needed at the perfect time. The is the real value of listening to a speaker.
When you have this frame of mind each time you hear someone speak you receive an experiential learning credit.
If their is an internal or external conflict you are experiencing when listening to a speaker, here is my advanced performance and life conflict resolution and idea generation tool. Speaking is the highest form of experiential learning from a person.
I look forward to hearing about the greater value you are receiving from attending events with a speaker.
“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old but
on building the new.” – Dan Millman
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“Gladly believe in your dreams to win paid better outcomes (personal best records).”
– Raj Gavurla
Gladly Believe In Your Dreams
Yes, you! Gladly performance motivation and inspiration not self-esteem. You have gifts, talents, and skills you are not aware of because they haven’t been needed. Since your gladly doing the right things, your new gifts, talents, and skills surface. When this happens you increase your situational awareness and better outcomes in all aspects of life.
Win Paid Better Outcomes (Personal Best Records)
Win by establishing your baseline performance. Then use strategies to win your personal best record. As you do so you are being paid. Your pay might not be monetary (you set a personal best record) and then the monetary pay comes to you. You don’t need to chase it.
This is the essence of life. It is what separates your best from status quo, existing, and apathy.
“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” – C. S. Lewis
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“Better self-management: Put brain, heart, and muscle power into it.” – Raj Gavurla
Lately there has been an increase in the use of the word “he/she/they/we don’t want” or “attitude” used instead of really helping the person who you think should want or have a positive attitude towards something.
Examples:
1. “Because he/she doesn’t want to make an A”. Most people want to make “A’s”. So it’s ridiculous to say they don’t want to that’s why they aren’t. Yes, the ability to teach is not a skill everyone has developed, built, grown, and usually the people who don’t have this skill revert to the two reasons why; “they don’t want to” or “attitude”.
Everyone’s situation is different, however, one way to increase reading comprehension, retention, and application of learning might be the following:
1. Read the first paragraph of the chapter
2. Read the last paragraph of the chapter
3. Read the headings in the chapter if present
4. Ask yourself questions as you read specific sections
5. Write in the margins to denote its significance to you
Yes, this takes more prep time/work, however, it makes you faster in the end because of your ability to comprehend, retain, and apply the learning.
2. You see this in the workplace also because people aren’t making sure all the relevant information is there or they have anxiety. Trying to get through it as fast as they can without making sure to first check to see is all the relevant information there and if something is missing find it (research) and then put the steps needed to complete it with an estimated amount of time. Realize, most people are working on multiple projects at work so put that into your time estimate and assign your time as “uninterrupted”, “regular”, or “interrupted” to accurately estimate the time. This will take undue pressure off of you. If someone wants you to do it faster without providing you the tools or methods to do so then tell them “that’s as soon as I can have it done”. Put some margin in there for breathing room and unexpected events. Planning helps.
3. When I taught Career Planning & Exploration my students were future medical assistants, owners, entrepreneurs, computer technicians, and business management professionals.
To prepare, I learned about their course of study to grasp some of the vocabulary to relate to them. As we prepared for mock interviews, I would ask relevant questions pertaining to their field as being knowledgeable and then play the role of someone who wasn’t knowledgeable about their field but had a role in learning to run a better business. Seeing their qualitative answers in the debrief was insightful because of what was surprising, shocking, or went unnoticed. As they sat in a waiting room to prepare for a mock interview you could sense, see, and feel their brains, hearts, and muscles working. One had received news a few hours before that her apartment was flooded, one was battling chronic pain, and the others had their situation.
They all did well in their mock interviews because of “better self-management”. There were areas they felt they could have done better. That’s very important to know you can do better by increasing your skills although you are already skilled (competent) in a specific skill.
So, to transform your performance think of these examples and how you relate (“adaptability link”) to them. “Better self-management” makes it easier for you to transform your performance.
“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” Theodore Roosevelt
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