“Consistently perform well in all aspects of life: Win and make better money the right way.”
– Raj Gavurla
Something annoys me every time it happens. While doing my track training at a local high school (the high school is not important) I see and hear teenagers using racial slurs and denigrating each other. I know we are taking about teenagers whether they are thinking they are “being cool” or “using it as intimidation”.
A few days ago, it was something I hadn’t seen before. Football players were using racial slurs while their coaches were present. One set of coaches were high school coaches and the other set of coaches were coaching middle school kids preparing to play for their high school. Racial slurs were being used by the high school teenagers to their teammates during practice and while taking water breaks. The middle school team wasn’t using racial slurs or denigrating each other. In fact, during their conditioning a teammate was last in finishing his track work and the whole team ran to him with him finishing ahead of some of them on purpose. Obviously, learning how to run track would make it easier for this boy as the players and coaches are relying mostly on talent at that age so he doesn’t always finish last.
Stopping the “nonsense” of teammates using racial slurs and denigrating each other has high-value worth for forward performance progress socially and environmentally. Leadership by the coaches would be of great use. If I was a coach, I wouldn’t allow my players (team) to use racial slurs or denigrating word choices. My working with athletes at all levels the use of racial slurs and denigrating word choices might work temporarily but not as they progress to realize it takes real learning and application of skill to progress from high school to college to professional in anything they choose to do in education, sports, business, and life.
Cultivating this approach develops, builds, and grows character and dignity which is of high-value worth as we are experiencing societal and cultural transformation in America and throughout the globe.
“Do small things with great love.” – Mother Teresa
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“Win your better outcomes: High Value and Valued ROI” – Raj Gavurla
Your valued employee is missing work more often and you can tell some things aren’t making sense. As leadership and management, you think about what’s happening to them. Then, your office manager or human resource person informs you they gave them the Employee Assistant Program (EAP) phone number. Of course, something serious happened yet you’re still puzzled. However, because you don’t know what to do or policy you don’t initiate to share authentic dialogue with your valued subordinate.
Your subordinate doesn’t know what’s happening as all they think is I’ve been having very unusual thoughts and not feeling well. It’s as if the microprocessor (brain) in my computer (body) isn’t consistently functioning. They really don’t know when told they have a mental health diagnosis what that means. They just hope the doctor determines the right treatment to help/cure/exhibit teamwork to allow them to successfully continue working and living a robust life. Sometimes for a percentage of workers, this happens and they continue successfully working and living a robust life. Often times the facts are this doesn’t happen and your employee’s performance is valued for periods of time and then an episode or something happens and they miss work or they aren’t exhibiting their consistent valued performance. A mental health challenge doesn’t discriminate based on socioeconomic or sociodemographic status.
There is a highly customized fluid solution for your valued subordinate. An example is:
1. You (Boss) initiating and sharing private authentic dialogue with your employee. It takes research better outcomes, preparation, interaction, and communication to deliver better outcomes for your subordinate (employee).
2. Understanding what his or her treatment plan is and the teamwork needed.
3. Forming a “small individual/personal matters team/group” to help your subordinate by involving a select group of trained employees as this employee’s support system in your workplace.
4. Understanding the high-value importance/urgency of their family, work, and financial sustainability to your subordinate’s wellness is essential. Their family is experiencing similar uncertainty as you about the well-being of your employee.
5. By taking the initiative and being proactive with a process your employee becomes better and your costs tremendously decrease because your employee is still able to work although it might be scaled back and is given the review and evaluation of their work during this time to continue being a forward performing valued successful employee.
Yes, taking these steps are asking for more effort on your part as Boss and employer. However, the following are some of the better outcomes (results) from taking initiative:
1. I know as employer, Boss, team, and employee each is doing everything they can to see each other succeed and your clients succeed. As an employer, you don’t have to do the bare minimum to be in compliance. There are value-add resources that can help you. As a strong mental health advocate, performance consultant/coach, and entrepreneurial leadership expert, my services might be a value-add to your current protocol for this situation.
2. Donating to charity is important and I encourage you to continue doing so to make your business and community stronger. However, a lot of times companies donate to non-profits (a humanitarian cause/need) without knowing the person they are helping to receive support services. By allocating funds for mental health in your company, you are essentially creating “charity in the workplace” and seeing your dollars actually being put to use for your valued employee and receive quality work completed for your efforts.
3. The sensation of having this humanitarian lens is very fulfilling, highly satisfying, and delivers a win for all (your business and community). Businesses are here to contribute to family and societal progress. Being a humanitarian to me means more than “spiritual brothers and sisters have to eat”. Being a humanitarian means “spiritual brothers and sisters have to thrive”. We are very capable of this mission and aspiration being a reality because of the forward progress we consistently make in employer/employee relationships and societal progress.
4. Most likely your employee becomes more loyal and continues to make forward progress in your company. Also, you now have an employee with high-value empathy skills and is part of your succession planning for your “small personal matters team(s)/group(s). Although most of your employees don’t have a mental health diagnosis, they do have mental health challenges whether spurred from a workplace issue or life issue that sharing authentic dialogue with select people in a “small personal matters team/group” would greatly benefit your business.
5. Mental health is our current major employer/social health challenge to the robust viability of our workplace we have to triumph along with cancer (you could imagine this affects a person’s mental health).
6. I’ve heard too many personal stories of talented, skilled, and educated people who are underemployed and not doing meaningful work. Because of this, there might be relationship problems because of the stigma associated with mental health and the individual might lose hope.
Sports often is at the forefront of employer and societal progress. An example is Lebron James addressing the Cavaliers in the locker room, welcoming, and helping Larry Sanders (mental health challenge) join the team and continue to progress in his NBA career. Yes, there are a lot of small business owners who are also helping and supporting individuals with a mental health challenge. How about your Fortune 500, mid-size, or over 50 employees small business?
Remember, being a humanitarian is more than “spiritual brothers and sisters have to eat”. Being a humanitarian is “spiritual brothers and sisters have to thrive”. It’s a win for all. It’s worth it!
If you are an executive, in management, or are a workplace leader, who is challenged by mental health in your business, please contact me to share authentic dialogue. Your leadership is needed and wanted.
“One’s destination is never a place but rather a new way of looking at things.” Henry Miller
For programs and services, contact Raj at 864.569.2315, email@example.com, LiiiVEN.
“Do prosperity work: create inspiring authentic dialogue.
Be a good listener: Personally, we the people (everyone), want each person to thrive.”
– Raj Gavurla
Where is the new talent pool? It’s within you! Take a look at these professions:
Engineer, Entrepreneur, Public Service, Doctor, Writer, Professional Speaker, Professional Athlete, Actor, Model, Musician, Professor, and add any profession(s) to your liking.
Is it within you? Be and/or become any of the professions of your liking and you will be able to forward practical perform winning valued money doing so. For example, you might work for a few minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, quarters, seasonally, or years doing one or any combination of the profession(s).
Your reply to “what do you do?” might be, “I’m an entrepreneur, engineer, professional speaker, writer, professional athlete, politician, doctor, actor, consultant, and coach.” They might give you an uncertain look. You reply, “I’m paid (valued money) doing each”.
What combination will you use to thrive?
“You can’t use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have.” – Maya Angelou
“You want something(s) that works or is working!” – Raj Gavurla
In talking with Jerry he told me his people work too much. For some reason, people are equating the amount of time with better outcomes. Of course, no one will accomplish anything professionally without putting in their time. However, do you maximize your better results with the time you put in?
In my work with clients, I discover one or more of the following three mental skills needing sprucing and honing:
1. They aren’t rewarding themselves mentally.
2. They are being too hard on themselves.
3. They need to “get the gunk out” (get rid of all negativity)
They aren’t rewarding themselves mentally
You want a robust life, better living, and better future. Yes, someone might think someone doesn’t want that that’s why they are where they are. Non-sense! Since you are a robust being a combination of activities interact so you can shine brighter. To reward yourself categorize them and after achieving them reward yourself with mental points. It can be 1, 1,000, 5,000, 10,000 or any number for the accomplishment of each category. Only reward yourself with the points after it’s completed. For example, your categories could be:
1. Woke up looking forward to the day. Attack the day. (1,000 points)
2. Did my mental performance routine(s), stretching exercises, and ate breakfast with appreciation? (1,000 points)
3. Got the kids ready. (1,000 points)
4. Did work. (1,000 points)
5. Inspire yourself through the negative thoughts (1,000 points)
6. Took a break (1,000 points)
7. Ate lunch with appreciation (1,000 points)
8. Did work (1,000 points)
9. Went for a run (7 points (1 for each segment))
10. Plan something to look forward to in the evening (0 points)
11. Took a tea break (1,000 points)
12. Ate dinner with appreciation (1,000 points)
13. Inspire yourself through the craving (1,000 points)
14. Something relaxing (talking with family) and fun (watching a game, reading, playing tennis or basketball) in the evening (1,000 points)
Remember to reward yourself with points after completing each category. Then, add up the points. If you aren’t hitting your target number then either you are doing too much as in Jerry’s case or too little. Test it. Consistently do it for one week. What do you think? Win is in the fun!
They are being too hard on themselves
Yes, your children can make robust A’s, you can be more successful in your profession, and you’re able to win more tennis matches. How do you plan to make a robust A by attending class and taking notes without reading the material? Do you think by reading the material and at intervals asking yourself questions about the material so you can recall it and apply the learning makes sense?
In your profession, what are you doing to work on better interaction and communication skills, your presentation skills, better education (learn how to learn), better relationships, better results, participating in events to grow/build/develop for a better living, robust life, a better future, and better outcomes? Without having a support system (family, friends, spiritual growth/building/development), support services (coach(es), mentor(s), advisor(s)) it’s almost impossible. Look at any highly successful person. They have a support system and support services/products. The good news is there are so many options available and it’s up to you to research the best one(s) for your situation.
They need to “get the gunk out” (get rid of all negativity)
For your higher performance, “get the gunk out”. Stop trying to analyze your thoughts. Just think, “get the gunk out”! Then you can connect with patience to inspire your higher performance. Test it! When you think or say “get the gunk out”, a void needs to be filled. It’s your job to fill it with anything inspiring for your higher performance (shine brighter). Listen to motivating and inspiring videos, attend events, read motivating and inspiring books, and stop uselessly browsing the web clogging your mind with useless information overload. Only view, attend, read, and browse sites applicable to your situation. You’re a star, shine brighter.
“Love everything you do. Better outcomes with consistent positive work (practice) and “the zone” repetitions.” – Raj Gavurla
For programs and services, contact Raj at 864.569.2315, firstname.lastname@example.org.
“Live your great dreams they become greater.” – Raj Gavurla
When I heard the name Mahatma Gandhi, I did not realize his importance globally. Non-violence resonated with me. Think of the opposite. What’s the need?
Before attending a talk on non-violence, I thought of the violence I have seen. My first discussion of violence was in fourth grade. My friends and I were discussing how to defend ourselves. My Bruce Lee impersonation with sound effects sent a friend frighteningly into the supplies closet. Two guys fighting in the school cafeteria in sixth grade was my first encounter with violence. One threw chairs and the place cleared out with students in shock and not knowing how to respond. We couldn’t believe what was happening.
The next occurrence of violence occurred on a Sunday driving through downtown as a sixteen year old. As I slowly drove by, two men were fighting. A car stopped ahead of me and a mountain of a man stepped out in a three piece suit. He single handedly separated the two. They didn’t have a chance!
In history class my high school teacher assigned us a term paper. My paper was on the book, The Life of Mahatma Gandhi. A fascinating read by Louis Fischer and years later in 1982 the movie Gandhi played in theaters. The most vivid scenes for me was a reporter on the phone relaying the story of how Gandhi was leading a non-violence movement in South Africa and then India.
Violence didn’t occur again until I visited Hollywood on a tour bus parked adjacent to Grauman’s Chinese Theatre for tourists to shop for souvenirs. People screamed and began to gather, therefore, I rushed across the street because I’ve heard of people passing out from seeing a star. Brad Pitt, then they faint.
A car pulled up and three guys attacked another. A mob ensued. They were beating him and he fell to the ground. They continued to kick him! The girls with the guys tried to stop the violence. As the girls were being pushed aside, losing footing, and clothing, me and a guy running from the other side of the street were about to step in to help the girls. I’m not sure what I would have done. In hindsight, I think the best I could have done was to yell at the top of my voice. Fortunately, we heard a police siren and the guys doing the beating ran off.
As a motivational and inspirational speaker and author, I’ve been on the platform in front of diverse groups: Business and community groups, athletes, detainees in the mental health quad at the Greenville Detention Center, facilitate a mental health support group, and train police officers. Many of them have experienced violence either perpetrated by another or themselves.
I emphasize the following:
1. Non-violence towards yourself
2. Non-violence towards another
To have a deeper appreciation of non-violence the thought provoking talk I attended was part of an event at the Vedic Center of Greenville in Ahimsa Hall by Shrimiti Kamalaji (Gandhi Foundation). Ahimsa means non-violence.
My question to her: With the increase in non-military violence how do we create a non-violence movement in our community and society in order to consistently enable individuals’ dreams, aspirations, and hope successfully?
1. Non-violence isn’t to be legislated
2. Use self-discipline, aspirations, and passion for inner-peace
As I reflected on her answer, I think of the courage of Malala Yousafzai, (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3rNhZu3ttIU, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MOqIotJrFVM, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vrWttENgWNE) and of using books, pens, teachers, and education as a weapon and the non-violence movement in Hong Kong for democracy.
The words of Gandhi still reverberate:
“It has always been a mystery to me how men can feel themselves honoured by the humiliation of their fellow beings.” – Mahatma Gandhi
Think about what non-violence would look like in your community.
1. The evening news wouldn’t open with someone being shot, a school shooting, or a story on bullying.
2. Doctor’s offices and hospitals serve sick people not cases of domestic violence
3. There’s no suicide.
What fills the void?
Consistently enable individuals’ dreams successfully. Without enabling great dreams there is apathy and violence as means for survival. Be determined to help, assist, and support someone you know and don’t know with earning and achieving great dreams because by doing so we find better ways and create new jobs (an occupation that didn’t exist) and better jobs (ones with career progression) to generate economic growth, peace, and raise the standard of living locally, nationally, and throughout the world.
Before we are capable of doing so, we need non-violence to produce economic growth and peace. What can you be involved with or do to create a non-violence movement in your community?
List three ways non-violence brings economic growth:
List three ways for you to benefit from non-violence:
By having a conversation with a group or a person about the items you listed you have an opportunity to enrich and expand or create a non-violence movement in your community. We will have a better future by creating a non-violence movement in communities throughout the nation and world. Enable great dreams – they become greater.