“Serve, give, do, help your parents and family, organization, teammates, clients,
friends, and others.”– Raj Gavurla
Last week I attended an event where people spoke about their solution for a better living and better future. Afterwards, we took a break and as I networked with people I asked a few people what were the main points of a specific speaker. None of them could tell me. Therefore, it prompted me to write my post on why, how, and what to do when listening to a speaker.
Why?
When listening to a speaker, know why you are listening and discover why the speaker is saying what they say.
How?
Listen to how the speaker acknowledges, honors, what are the main points, examples, and stories.
What To Do?
What does the speaker do to connect with the audience. When a speaker connects that means the audience uses emotional intelligence to take this experiential learning and apply it to benefit their situation and benefit extension by telling someone about the speaker and event. Throughout your life you will be able to recall specifics about the speaker and message (it moved you, an example, phrases, sound bites, stories, or statistics) you’ll use at the right time (often and sometimes for decades) to help you succeed in what you are doing.
I recall speakers and their message, examples, phrases, sound bites, stories, or statistics throughout my life. It has a cumulative effect and I recall it when needed at the perfect time. The is the real value of listening to a speaker.
When you have this frame of mind each time you hear someone speak you receive an experiential learning credit.
If their is an internal or external conflict you are experiencing when listening to a speaker, here is my advanced performance and life conflict resolution and idea generation tool. Speaking is the highest form of experiential learning from a person.
I look forward to hearing about the greater value you are receiving from attending events with a speaker.
“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old but
on building the new.” – Dan Millman
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“Consistently perform breakthroughs more often.” – Raj Gavurla
For performance breakthroughs to recur you need to consistently learn new knowledge to you, use deliberate practice to prepare for each experience, and apply the skills for better outcomes and wins to come to you.
Helping professionals and amateurs in business, life, and athletics what separates the pros from each other and the amateurs from each other are their performance mental skills.
Most of the elite pros have the technique whereas amateurs are in development of technique before becoming professional. As a pro and amateur, you need to work on consistently transforming your performance mental skills.
After each deliberate practice or experience/event measure (7 is best) yourself in the following performance breakthroughs areas:
1. Did you perform “in the zone” (peak performance, optimal performance)?
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2. Technique (if you are an elite pro you should already be at a 7)
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3. Do you have anxiety?
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4. Did you eat right?
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5. Did you mentally prepare?
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6. Did you physically prepare?
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7. How was your focus/concentration?
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8. How was your confidence?
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9. Did you perform/play loose and relaxed?
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10. Did you believe you could perform a breakthrough?
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11. Did you use emotion/sound (electrophysiology) for a competitive advantage?
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12. Did you implement a new tactic/strategy?
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13. Did you implement a new performance mental skill?
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14. Did you feel pain?
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15. How was your physical strength?
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16. How was your stamina/endurance?
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17. Did you mentally and verbally show appreciation/gratitude towards the people that made it possible for you to participate?
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18. Did you complete your Your Raise The Bar Primer: Mental Performance Tools workbook to consistently perform breakthroughs more often?
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19. What did you learn?
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20. What will you work on to consistently perform better the next time?
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21. What will you share with your coach, manager, supervisor, or boss?
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22. What will you share with your performance mental skills coach?
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23. Are you participating in more challenging practices and experiences/events?
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24. What is your vision for your next step?
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25. Are you enjoying and cherishing the amazing that is happening through your relationships?
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26. Did you have fun?
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27. Was it challenging/competitive?
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28. Is it becoming easier?
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29. Have you helped someone who isn’t at your skill level?
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Total your number of points. What range are you in?
Beginner: 29 – 57
Intermediate: 58 – 86
Advanced: 87 – 115
Emerging: 116 – 144
Star: 145 – 173
Super Star: 174 – 203
“Dream big dreams. Small dreams have no magic.” – Dottie Boreyko
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“What robust Olympic memories do you want?” – Raj Gavurla
Robust Olympic Moments: https://www.theguardian.com/sport/series/50-stunning-olympic-moments
“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt
“You can have it all. Just not all at once.” ― Oprah Winfrey
“Dare to live the life you have dreamed for yourself. Go forward and make your dreams come true.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson
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“Learn the habits of win forward performance.” – Raj Gavurla
I was featured on this tennis blog talk radio show as a substitute for Allen Fox. It’s for tennis players, coaches, fans, and enthusiasts, Coach Danise’s Blog Talk Radio program is forward performing. I’m glad to create and share my expertise inspiring dialogue with Coach Danise.
For those who want to contact me for Performance Coaching & Consulting or for me to deliver a Keynote & Workshop visit: http://www.rajgavurla.com/privatementalperformance.html
For those who want to buy my workbook, Your Raise The Bar Primer: Mental Performance Tools mentioned in the radio program for all levels of play visit: http://rajgavurla.com/tennisworkbooksandprograms.html
Click Here To Learn From The Radio Program:
Learn The Habits of Win Forward Performance
“Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.” – Unknown
For programs and services, contact Raj at 864.569.2315, raj@rajgavurla.com