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10 Easier Tips for Home, Job, and Work Success Living With A Mental Health Condition

“Help people live their greatest dreams and goals.” – Raj Gavurla

To help you with mental health continuum in your organization. As a very strong mental health advocate this is my solution to learn how to make it easier. This is at home and in the workplace in addition to the right treatment (with or without medication) and/or the right therapy.


1. Employers allow people with a mental health condition to work with highly individually customized (reasonable) accommodations, right support system, and right support services .  It’s very rewarding making an employee’s life better and benefit doing so because they continue to deliver a good job and good work for you in a capacity that benefits everyone involved.

2. Have dreams and goals for your life and work.  See yourself successful.

3.  Learn how to control your emotion using right thinking if having intrusive thoughts or images using your wisdom.

Phrases: “I control emotion.”, “I don’t see that.” or “Don’t see that”, “I don’t hear that.” or “Don’t hear that”. 

4.  Listen to the right people.  

5. Listen to your body

6. Easier nutrition (no refined sugar, limit or no caffeine, 3-4 servings of fruit and veggies, 8 glasses of water, limit or no fried foods, limit or no alcohol, limit or no cheese, limit dessert, limit or no candy, limit or no late night eating)

7. Walk/Exercise and/or Run in a way towards your fitness goals without injury. Answer: What will be easier for you to do with you being fit?

8. Meditate for an hour daily. Feel your neurotransmitters and endorphins flow through your body.

9. Read to learn something for at least 20 minutes a day and apply the learning.

10. Do my mental performance skills and life tools workbook.

If interested, in your specific situation towards your greatest dreams and goals for you or someone contact me at 864.569.2315, raj@rajgavurla.com.

When we seek to discover the best in others, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves.” – William Arthur Ward

Why Listen To A Speaker?

“Serve, give, do, help your parents and family, organization, teammates, clients,

friends, and others.”– Raj Gavurla

Last week I attended an event where people spoke about their solution for a better living and better future.  Afterwards, we took a break and as I networked with people I asked a few people what were the main points of a specific speaker.  None of them could tell me.  Therefore, it prompted me to write my post on why, how, and what to do when listening to a speaker.


When listening to a speaker, know why you are listening and discover why the speaker is saying what they say.


Listen to how the speaker acknowledges, honors, what are the main points, examples, and stories.

What To Do?

What does the speaker do to connect with the audience.  When a speaker connects that means the audience uses emotional intelligence to take this experiential learning and apply it to benefit their situation and benefit extension by telling someone about the speaker and event. Throughout your life you will be able to recall specifics about the speaker and message (it moved you, an example, phrases, sound bites, stories, or statistics) you’ll use at the right time (often and sometimes for decades) to help you succeed in what you are doing.

I recall speakers and their message, examples, phrases, sound bites, stories, or statistics throughout my life.  It has a cumulative effect and I recall it when needed at the perfect time.  The is the real value of listening to a speaker.

When you have this frame of mind each time you hear someone speak you receive an experiential learning credit.

If their is an internal or external conflict you are experiencing when listening to a speaker, here is my advanced performance and life conflict resolution and idea generation tool.  Speaking is the highest form of experiential learning from a person.

I look forward to hearing about the greater value you are receiving from attending events with a speaker.

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old but

on building the new.” – Dan Millman

For programs and services, contact Raj Gavurla at 864.569.2315, raj@rajgavurla.com.

My Tennis Coach Came To A Match After A Month

“Listen to learn and apply the learning to transform your performance.  You experience greater success with the right fluid support system.” – Raj Gavurlayour raise the bar primer
I haven’t seen my tennis coach in a month, however, he keeps track of my progress.  How? He contacts people who watch me play matches or that I play with.  He came to the courts today and I was prepared.  I said, “Coach” in a welcoming way.  He said, “I’m watching”.  I thought, “I’m glad because I’ve been using my Your Raise The Bar Primer: Mental Performance Tools workbook”.

I was serving up 40 – love and double faulted.  He said, “I hate double faults”.  Then his narrative started. “Consistency.” “You’re up and down.”  So, I had to make sure coach had been tracking my progress.  I told him we haven’t lost a doubles match in three weeks.  I asked, “have you been talking with people about my progress?”  He smiled a little.  Then, I showed coach me playing better tennis.

I asked him is he using his Your Raise The Bar Primer Mental Performance Tools workbook?  I’m making sure he’s doing his mental performance skills homework.  He didn’t say anything.  Then, I hit a few more shots.  One a one-handed backhand winner with an extended “ahh” added to relieve tension.  Then, I hit another winner and coach wasn’t watching. Later in the match, I hit an overhead with an “ahh” and fist pump towards my partner to acknowledge our exceptional play.  Then I served an ace and said “Coach” looking at him and he gave me a thumbs up.

I realize you probably have a tennis coach, however, by using my Your Raise The Bar Primer: Mental Performance Tools workbook you will be prepared when your coach checks on you.  Coach knows about the technique of tennis (“how to hit the ball and positioning”).    I missed a low volley and I asked my coach what I should do.  He said, “footwork”.

Since I’m the mental performance skills coach, I know it wasn’t footwork.  It was because I hit the low volley without a target.  In other words, just getting it back.  The problem is the ball didn’t know where to go to. Keep in mind my coach is a cabinet maker.  I just call him “Coach” because it’s funner and he does act like my coach.

However, for real tennis coaching both tactical/technique/tennis management and private mental performance coaching visit http://www.rajgavurla.com/diamondforwardtennis.html.  Our services and my workbook are available for purchase and you can contact me if you are a professional, college, academy or aspiring tennis player looking to raise the bar in your tennis performance. Whether you already have a coach and just want to boost your play with our services and products or you want us to chart your tennis career, contact me (performance consultant and coach) and I will coordinate with my partner who works on the tactical/technique/tennis management to highly customize the best package for you.

It’s a week later and I just finished playing tennis.  Coach was there and asked “How are you?” in a way that meant, “I like what I’m seeing!”  Coach seems more mature in his approach.  I asked him again if he’s using my workbook.  I saw a gleam in his eye meaning “yes”.  We played doubles together and Coach was making fist pumps towards me. Wow! He also was praising his own shots.  Coach is doing my workbook.  His lens and physiology and ability to play better tennis are quite obvious.  I’m looking forward to seeing coach’s practical forward mobility.

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” – Walt Disney
For programs and services, contact Raj Gavurla at 864.569.2315, raj@rajgavurla.com, LiiiVEN.


“Do prosperity work: create inspiring authentic dialogue.

Be a good listener:  Personally, we the people (everyone), want each person to thrive.”

– Raj Gavurla

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Where is the new talent pool?  It’s within you!  Take a look at these professions:

Engineer, Entrepreneur, Public Service, Doctor, Writer, Professional Speaker, Professional Athlete, Actor, Model, Musician, Professor, and add any profession(s) to your liking.

Is it within you?  Be and/or become any of the professions of your liking and you will be able to forward practical perform winning valued money doing so.  For example, you might work for a few minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, quarters, seasonally, or years doing one or any combination of the profession(s).

Your reply to “what do you do?” might be, “I’m an entrepreneur, engineer, professional speaker, writer, professional athlete, politician, doctor, actor, consultant, and coach.”  They might give you an uncertain look.  You reply, “I’m paid (valued money) doing each”.

What combination will you use to thrive?

“You can’t use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have.” – Maya Angelou

For programs and services, contact Raj at 864.569.2315, raj@rajgavurla.com.