Conflict Resolution: Living As A Family & Teammates Using Soccer Referee Yellow & Red Card
“We are living as a family and teammates (together everyone achieves more) making each other stronger and preventing injury.” – Raj Gavurla
Here’s a simple way to have a successful conversation living as a family and teammates to make each other stronger and prevent injury. I show you how to use my adaptability link tool and concept specifically for conflict resolution using a soccer referee yellow and red card.
In soccer a yellow card is given when there is a concern about the professional interpersonal play between players on the two opposing teams to specific player(s). It tells the player(s) to be careful (use caution). Using my adaptability link tool and concept we’ll apply it to living as a family and teammates. When there is a communication conflict, problem, or issue one of the individuals gives another a yellow card. Examples: Someone says
- I don’t like your behavior
- You have attitude
- I don’t like the way you are treating me
- You’re not doing your job
- “You don’t know anything.”
- Calling me “dumb guy”
- “You’re stupid”
- “You’re uncaring”
- etc.
You don’t need to have a physical yellow card. Pretend you have one, hold it up, and say “I’m giving you a yellow card for saying [insert one of the examples]. Be careful.” Then for example, the person says “I called you a dumb guy because you didn’t do what I told you.” You reply “we don’t talk like that. Upgrade your words (use better words).” Then you tell them for example I had a meeting to attend and can’t drop everything I’m doing to do what you told me to do. Usually the person will realize the inappropriate words and they might apologize for using those words or still might use inappropriate words at a future time. Then you give them another yellow card until the bad habit is corrected.
In soccer a red card is given when there is a concern about the professional interpersonal play between players on the two opposing teams to specific player(s). The player(s) is ejected from the game. Using my adaptability link tool and concept we’ll apply it to living as a family and teammates. When there is a communication conflict, problem, or issue one of the individuals gives another a red card because the conflict was more inappropriate.
You don’t need to have a physical red card. Pretend you have one, hold it up, and say “I’m giving you a red card.” This means both individuals stop talking (zip it). They don’t talk to each other until the person who gave the red card talks to the them. The next time they talk (few second(s), minute(s), hour(s), day(s), week(s)) both forget about the red card and talk about something completely different. For example, what do you want to eat for dinner or some other professional interpersonal project, task, priority, initiative, objective, goal, or concern.
If either person says “no red card”, then that means immediately there needs to be a slow caring successful conversation because someone’s feelings, emotions, and/or mood is hurt. They feel you were rude, disrespectful, and/or very offensive. The two of you will be able to solve it together. This will build your professional interpersonal relationship(s) living as a family and teammates.
This makes sense compared to in fighting, bickering, and/or toxicity. Would you be against using my adaptability link tool and concept to live as a family and teammates (together everyone achieves more) making each other stronger and preventing injury?
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